I'm single but in two toxic relationships at the same time: my job and my family.

Not gonna lie I have toxic people in my life and I have caught myself in multiple situations where I behaved differently, did or did not do something just because they were near.

Whenever these people are gone it’s just the most beautiful thing to be able to relax (also in my mind).

It’s crazy what other people do with us and how we can exaggerate all these feelings and emotions. The best thing I can do is to get rid of this toxicity in my life and move on.

Anybody else or is it just me?

Toxic relationships are the worst thing that can happen to anyone. While some of them you can get out of or avoid. You can't do much about the ones you're born into.

Such people have their egos up their butt. They just don't realise that they're just a tiny dust particle in the entirety of cosmos. They not only make things difficult for others by their presence, but often go out of their way to do that.

Fuck this!

In the first place I worked, bugs were my biggest challenge. The application suffered feature creep and was acutely unstable, such that new errors were discovered on a daily basis and each modification was guaranteed to break something unrelated that would be discovered down the road

The nightmares in the second place were a severely toxic environment coupled with tight deadlines that obviously were always missed. I thought I'd eventually figured out the science of project estimation or feature completion, but it turned out to be more witchcraft than science. I can't possibly have foreknowledge that it'll take me x weeks or days to build this out. And of course, client has to be given a date

I've been back to the job market for a while, unsure even whether I'll still work as a software engineer again. But if I do, I'm also curious about what new major obstacle I'd have to navigate there. It's surprising that development doesn't only have to do with your design patterns, relationships with your code editor, complex functionality you can implement, etc. Other enemies can still do you in